Great info there shaky, thank you! Hope you continue to remain cancer free. Angler of the month story was interesting. No worries. Thanks for sharing.
Look, I march to a slightly different beat. Some people like being stroked and coddled. I'm not one of them. I let my sister in law cook for me while i was getting my treatments. All her kids were away at school so i think it did her more good than it did me. She needed someone to take care of and staying with them was convenient for me as the clinics were right around the corner. Six weeks of that and we got to know each other a little better. just kidding
My mother wanted to help. I stayed with her a week and went nuts. She meant well, but she doesn't understand the meaning of the word no. No, I'm not hungry. No I don't want any more food. Please don't hover over me, etc. I don't want to sound like an ingrate, but i just can't handle the constant attention.
As far as the help, i've been let down in the past. I seldom ask anyone for help, so if you tell me you'll be there, don't be shining me on. A few acquaintances offered help, I called on one or two and they were there when i needed them.
As far as the "sorry to hear that" I suppose it's the right thing to say, but it just bugs the hell out of me
Thank you for the advice Shaky. That really helps. God bless you
Enjoy the Journey
Post #35 in the Angler/Story of the month thread.
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I thought this thead could use some humor, don't think Shaky will mind.
Even though he embellished, (he PMed me when he wrote it and told me the truth). I think it's a great story anyway.
Cardoc and I will be getting the Nicoderm patch to help aid in quitting. That is how I quit last time. Smoked for 15 years, used the patch and I quit like nothing. No edginess, no withdrawls. Worked wonders. About 6 monthe ago I had some stuff going on and got really stressed out after about 8 years of quitting and I started again. I will be qutting really soon as in like this weekend. Thanks for the support.
You really just want to treat people the way you'd like to be treated. If you've never been really sick it can be tough to figure out. I think people tend to internalize when they get cancer because they don't wanted to be treated any differently. Just a little understanding or compassion on the bad days can go a long way. If i felt like crap I pretty much made myself inaccessible to people, usually slept it off. The rest of the time I was cool and if I was just down in the dumps I welcomed calls from friends, so long as the didn't get all sappy on me.
It's kind of like raising kids I suppose. My mom mentioned to me a few months back that one of my aunts never could understand why i didn't warm up to her. I said that's easy to answer. I didn't like being smooshed, you know, when adults grab two handfuls of cheeks and twist and utter nonsense like "my Stevie moo" . Hell i didn't like being touched all that much to begin with and Iliked being mauled even less. Nobody could possibly like that and if as an adult you thought back to your childhood, you probably wouldn't do stuff like that if you wanted to endear yourself to said child. Same goes for patients.
What does it mean. If I'm lying in a hospital bed hooked up to IVs, drain tubes and monitors, don't come over and try petting or stroking me, I'm liable to bite your damn hand off Just pretend all that stuff isn't there.
Somehow I wouldn't have that impulse if I met ya either in the hospital room or the street, Shaky. Ya kinda remind me of a caged pit bull at times with the animation and ferocity of your stories. Or a retired prizefighter. You were downright scary the first time I met ya! Just kidding, bro!
Hey this is from my buddy. He has 3 lumps on his back and when he heard of this then this is why he thinks he may have cancer
If you are a Former Marine, or know one that served aboard Camp Lejeaune from the mid 60's through the 80's There are major health issues caused by the drinking water aboard the base. Cancer. Google it. Pass the word. 67 confirmed cases of male breast cancer caused Mastectomies. Kidney, Pancreas, and liver are all related. I am going through the paperwork process to have some lumps looked at now. Semper Fi!
I think any one that served there in the corps should get themselves checked out for this. If you do a google search there is lots of info out there about this. What a shame
Enjoy the Journey
Thanks for posting that, Doublerunner.
Candle for Cancer - sent in by Surfstix, thanks.
> Let's all Pray that within our life time THEY will find that cure!
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> In memory of our moms, dads, brothers and sisters, children,
> friends and loved ones of whom there are so many and those
> fighting cancer. For all the friends, family, loved ones, and
> those we don't even know
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> Friday is world cancer day - I'd appreciate it if you will
> forward this request
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> 93% won't forward
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> A small request.. Just one line.
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> Dear God, I pray for a cure for cancer. Amen
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> All you are asked to do is keep this circulating, even if it's
> only to one more person.
> In memory of anyone you know who has been struck down by cancer
> or is still living with it.
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> A Candle Loses Nothing by Lighting Another Candle..
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> Please Keep This Candle Going >
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> Let's all Pray that within our life time THEY will find that cure!
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> In memory of our moms, dads, brothers and sisters, children,
> friends and loved ones of whom there are so many and those
> fighting cancer. For all the friends, family, loved ones, and
> those we don't even know
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Thanks for sharing those words of wisdom, Steve.
I'm the same way. It's very hard for me to ask. As a result, I usually don't ask, even when I need help.
Thanks for the positivity, and all your efforts, Doublerunner. Hope things are better for you now.
I took some of Doublerunner's and Shaky/Steve's comments, and put them in bullet points.
There is some incredible wisdom here and I wanted to re-visit it.
The thing that I have noticed is that when someone gets cancer, a lot of their friends and acquaintances tend to avoid the subject, or avoid them.
This isn't being callous or cruel.....many folks simply don't know what to say, and feel their words of support may fall short, or feel inadequate.
That's completely normal, but it's not helpful to the person who has cancer.
**If you do know someone who is going through this....some thoughts....per the comments above...
1. Celebrate life.....with them, and get together to savor every last moment....before it's too late...
2. Laughter...the best medicine...it has gotten me through the worst of times....and it can help, in situations like this, where one might be uncomfortable with the possibilities of death and dying....try your best to help that person laugh....you won't regret it.....
great thread. My uncle had prostate cancer and survived. I got checked in December. It was a little weird having something up your butt, but hey they knock you out anyway. Had good results. Next test in 5 years. For anyone on the fence about it I say go and do it.